I posted a quote on my Instagram stories the other day. It read:
“Ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your very own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your very own best life. You are not in competition with anyone else. So focus on pushing to undo your past, not other people.”
The response I got was both astounding and sad. I had so many people reach out to me, thanking me for the reminder. That they too had been spiraling into the comparison trap lately – and that’s exactly what is is: a trap.
Not only as a girl, growing up and living in the age of social media and online bullies but as a blogger, who works in a very competitive and sometimes vain industry, I have long struggled with comparison. I can understand and sympathise with anyone who feels they’re not good enough.
Truth is, all comparison does it stunt your own growth and trick you into viewing your achievements as some sort of failure. You hit 10k but another girl hit 20k and now you start to feel bad. You thought you looked good in that outfit but you think someone else looks better in it. When does it stop? When is good enough?
I think at times we all need a reminder that no good can ever come of comparing your life to another’s. It’s so easy to get lost on Instagram and the next thing you know you’ve just compared yourself to your friend’s cousin’s, sister who’s a swimwear model currently in the Maldives.
I get it. We’ve all been there.
It’s human nature to compare but all it does it set you back. It takes eyes off YOUR goals and starts to focus them on others. Sometimes we need to take a step back and realise life isn’t a competition; there isn’t one kind of beauty, style, blogger or success.
Instead of wasting your time and energy over-analyzing others, here’s a few things you could do instead.
- GET OFF THE INTERNET & live in the real world. Catch up with a friend, read a book, go for a walk outside. Put your energy into something productive.
- Unfollow. Social media can be a great source of inspiration, but if it triggers inadequacy, self-doubt, and frustration, then maybe it’s time for a detox.
- Set your own goals. Improve on those from yesterday. You are the only person you can compare yourself with.
In a world that’s where everyone is trying to be like everyone else, I think it’s pretty cool to be different. To sum this up, here’s a few of my favourite quotes I thought I’d leave with you:
“Another woman’s beauty is not the absence of your own beauty.”
“Be like Michael Phelps. Stay in your own lane. Keep swimming forward & don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. Don’t look at other lanes. Just keep swimming.” – Bethenny Frankel
“We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated with purpose.”
“You are way cooler than your feed.”
“How to be successful: Focus on your own shit.”
“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.” – Sven Goran Eriksson
What are your thoughts on comparison? Is it something you struggle with? How do you overcome those feelings?