5 Things I’ve Learned from Blogging

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It just occurred to me that I missed my second blog anniversary in July, and although I’ve only been blogging on this little corner of the internet for 2 years (feels so long but not at the same time?), I’ve been blogging and making websites since I was about 15. That’s about 8 years now which I can hardly believe. It’s safe to say I’ve learned my fair share about the blogging world, but I’ve also picked up a few life lessons along the way. Blogging has taught me more than I ever could have imagined, but today I wanted to share the 5 most important things I’ve learned on my journey.

1.
It’s not a competition

In an industry obsessed with numbers, it can be hard to shake the competitiveness. It almost feels as if your instagram count is your worth in the game, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. No one should be in competition with each other and comparing yourself to other bloggers is completely pointless. It does absolutely no good because everyone is so different. Sure, there are times when I’ve felt envious of other bloggers who seem to buy a new Chanel bag every month, but then I realize some of them have been working at their blog for over 10 years. They take outfit photos almost daily and some of them even run a part time business. And then there’s others who fake it – buy the bag to photograph it & then return it (yes, this actually happens a lotttt in the blogging world, believe it or not). Regardless of these reasons, just because they’re sporting a new luxury item or have 100k+ followers does not mean they’re any better than you. There is no number one blogger and I have come to realize that readers, including myself, love to follow a plethora of blogs from different categories. I don’t think one is better than the other – I love them all unconditionally. And I definitely don’t follow people based on their followers, do you? People are allowed to read more than one blog!

2.
Stay humble

This is something that has become more relevant recently as I’ve seen happen more frequently. I’m definitely not saying this is every blogger, but when certain bloggers reach a particular amount of followers (usually 100k+), it’s almost as if they think they’re a celebrity. They don’t bother to reply to comments, messages, or respond to any kind of engagement. It’s really quite sad. I’ve met numerous bloggers in real life who have really disappointed me, and that only talk to others with a similar or higher amount of followers. It’s easy to fake a personality online but not so much in the real world. It’s so important to never, ever neglect your readers. They are responsible for every kind of success in your life as a blogger. I have so much respect for bloggers who try to reply to every comment, email, tweet, and message, despite the amount they are receiving.

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Don’t undervalue yourself

As a blogger, your voice should always be valued. If you feel you’re being underpaid or undervalued by a brand, it’s imperative you let them know. Don’t sell yourself short. The majority of brands and PRs I work with are incredible and very understanding, but I do get some very rude emails every so often. For example, if a brand is asking you to write a 1,000+ word post, with photography and social media sharing to 10,000+ people to promote their product in exchange for the opportunity to win a $15 amazon voucher, you can say NO. If anything, I find these types of emails very condescending and disrespectful. Stand up for your worth.

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Breaks are necessary

It’s very easy to become consumed by the online world so it’s important you take a step back and live in the real world. Actually, just yesterday, I took a day off from social media and blogging. I disconnected from everything, saw a friend for brunch, went for a long walk, listened to some feel-good music & caught up on netflix. I don’t do this very often at all, but the past week I’ve been feeling down, uninspired, negativite and felt myself falling into the comparison trap. And honestly, it did a world of good. I still felt so guilty for taking any time away, but today I know it was completely worth it. I feel recharged and refreshed, ready to take on tasks with a much better perspective. I like to think of it as a mental health day so I don’t completely lose my sanity, you know?

5.
Progress over perfection

I’m not saying don’t take pride in your work, but sometimes it’s better to choose to progress rather than make it perfect. Nothing is ever going to be perfect and there is never a right time. Always choose quality over quantity, but don’t waste time fretting over minor details that could potentially deter you from great opportunities. Even if it’s not 100% perfect, put your work out there and improve on it! When I was starting this blog, I was paralyzed by the desire to do everything right and overwhelmed with the amount of decisions (indecisiveness is one of my worst traits). Over time I realized things don’t have to be exactly how I need them to be, I just have to do what I can with what I have, and grow from there. Experience is invaluable in this industry.

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I hope you guys enjoyed this post! Are you a blogger? What’s the best thing you’ve learned from your time blogging?

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  • Thank you so much for this post!! not comparing yourself to others to me is important everyone is different and has a specific style.

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

    • I’m so happy you liked it Candice!! It’s sooo true! We all bring something to the game :) xx

  • I’m a small blogger myself and I can really identify with many of the things you wrote. My blog isn’t that big but as you said it’s not about the numbers. Nobody should own a blog just for the numbers or to get sent some great stuff. Also taking breaks is extremely important. Every now and then one should just take a day off and have a great day without being on social media all the time.
    Norina xx

    la-piccola-me.blogspot.com

    • Aw thank you so much Norina! It’s definitely not about the numbers :) yes totally agree! Much more to life than social media! xx

  • I agree with all of these. I hate it when you see some bloggers making out like it is a competition. I have been blogging two years now and I am still shocked every time I get new followers, it is such an amazing feeling.

    EmmysBeautyCave | Bloglovin | ColourPop GIVEAWAY

    • Thank you Emma! It’s the worst, it’s not supposed to be a competition!! Ahh yes, it is the best feeling :) xx

  • Zohra

    I’m definitely still trying to focus on progress over perfection, I try too hard to make my blog perfect! Thanks for the great post! x

    http://www.yourealreadyinvited.com

    • It’s sooo hard, I get it! You just take it day by day :) in the end, there’s no such thing as perfect! xx

  • Yes to everything you’ve said and congrats on two years of this blog xx

    franalibi.blogspot.co.uk

    • Aw thanks so much lovely!! xx

  • Vilma Sierra

    I love your post because you touch a diversity of interesting topics. I’m writer for blog http://adventurself.com
    We are just writer writing about topics that help your mind, body and spirit in this world fill with negativity we need a daily dose of positivism.
    Check it out if you have time :) Happy anniversary and thank you for your blog.

    • Thank you so much Vilma, your blog is so lovely :) xx

      • Vilma Sierra

        Thank you :)

  • S Jones

    I agree with all of these! Blogging is such a great thing but I think we need to stop comparing ourselves to others and just have fun with it! :)

    Blushhx

    • I think it’s all become so serious and people are losing sight of why we blog in the first place!! Thanks so much for reading lovely :) xx

  • I love this post. Everything you said is true but there are two points I try to keep in mind no matter what: to not compare myself to others and to always do the best I can! I think it’s really important to learn along the way!

    abittersweetdiary.blogspot.pt

    • Love those!!! SO true – I try to remind myself of them daily :) thanks so much for commenting Rita xx

  • CozyZen

    It’s my first time on your blog and I love it. Its also a great place to meet other bloggers. I can relate with you and comparison is really the thief of joy. I have learned to have a tunnel vision and take breaks every so often to compose myself.

    http://www.cozyzen.com

    • Aw welcome, it’s lovely to have you here!! Comparison is an easy trap to fall into, but it will only rob you of things you love. Breaks are a life saver (literally). so glad you could relate to my points! :) xx

  • Loved this post! I love blogging and the community is so nice. I totally agree, it doesn’t matter how many people read your posts/like your stuff, sometimes I just write posts because I know I want to look back on them and go “Oh yea! That was a fun thing!” It also takes some of the stress away from school ;) haha
    x Kenzie // Kenzieblogslife.blogspot.com

    • Thank you Kenzie!! Yes exactly!!! It should never add to the stress of school :) xx

  • Ashley Christabelle

    Oh wow, I know that some of the high and mighty bloggers are quite snobbish (not all of course), but to see that you’ve met some of them really opens my eyes that some people just don’t take fame well. Staying humble in the blogging world is key, I think. Happy second anniversary to you too, btw! I absolutely love every single one of your post, all beautifully written. x

    http://www.ashrealasitgets.blogspot.con

    • Yeah it’s so sad! It really opened my eyes too how much numbers can get inside people’s head! Aww you are too kind Ashley, thank you so much :) xx

  • missgetaway

    Honestly couldn’t agree more with what you’re saying here.

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

    • Ahh yay thank you so much Kerstin!! :) xx

  • I think these are some brilliant points to have learnt, and it’s so important to share them as they’re so positive they can help other bloggers out too!

    elwillmer.blogspot.co.uk
    xx

    • Thank you so much Ellie! Always love to hear from you :) xx

  • This is one of the best posts I’ve read in so long! I agree with everything, especially the first point, I think us bloggers can get carried away with trying to be the best all of the time – we’re a time and we need to support each other! (cheesy but true, no?) Thank you so much for sharing!

    http://www.allthingsfoxyy.blogspot.co.uk

    Emma x

    • Ohh thank you so much Emma!! So lovely of you to say. Exactly, couldn’t agree more! We’re a community :) xx

  • I’ve enjoyed reading this post so much and couldn’t agree more with everything you’ve said in it. I actually feel much better about my own blog right now so thanks! :D

    xx, Matea
    http://www.smilesnapsparkle.com

    • Aww that makes me SO happy!!! Your blog is so lovely! :) xx

  • Peppermint Dolly

    Fantastic piece of writing on the subject. Thank you for this, always good to get a reminder of where your perspective should be aligning!

    Rxx

    http://www.peppermintdolly.com

    • Thank you so much!! So happy you could relate :) xx

  • This couldn’t have come at a better time, Angela! Every so often I find myself continuously comparing myself other other bloggers in the community, and I often tell myself that I should be like her, or my photos should be like this. If I’m in a down mood, the numbers can really bother me- but everyday I try my best to tell myself that I am a work in progress. I only started my blog at the very end of March, and have hit 300 followers. At this point, I’m not sure what is progress or what isn’t…

    Kyia at WANDERLUSTGIRL// lifestyle & beauty
    Let’s be BLOGLOVIN friends!

    • It’s so easy to start comparing yourself to others but you just have to remind yourself to stay in your own lane & focus on building your progress!! don’t focus on numbers too much, just focus on why you’re blogging.. To inspire? To inform? numbers should not indicate your blogs worth! xx

  • Allison

    I’ve never commented on a blog before, but I feel the need to right now. Your blog is amazing and it is one of the few that I come back to daily! I think your posts are very inspiring and relatable, and you shouldn’t ever feel down or negative. Please don’t ever stop what you’re doing :)

    • Oh wow this literally just made my day!!! Thank you so so much Allison, that was so sweet of you to say :) xx

  • This article is so useful! It frees you of all the limits and fears people have about blogging, including myself. Thank you! ??

    Cristina | *janded

    • That makes me SO happy to hear! Outside your comfort zone is where the magic happens. Thank you so much Cristina!! :) xx

  • loved this post so much. blogging just challenged my creativity so much and always makes me want to do my best and that is so important for me. my future job is not going to be the most creative one so i love to have this as a balance.

    loovelle.blogspot.com

    • Aw thank you so much Elena! It’s amazing to have blogging as a creative outlet, isn’t it <3 xx

  • the key points are absolutely enjoy of what you are doing and stay humble. We are so lucky that a passion like blogging could actually become a job if working really hard<3
    love this post and keep your great work(:

    xx from italy
    Cate ღ kate/idoscope.com

    • It’s so incredible what people have made of their blogs! There are no limits :) Thanks so much Kate!! xx

  • paulina

    I enjoyed the post, thank you, I’m just starting and sometimes you get discouraged so it was a good read :)

    • Thanks so much Paulina! Never focus too much on numbers, just focus on why you’re blogging to begin with & creating a little community :) xx

  • Aizzing

    This post is one of the reasons why I keep coming back to your blog. Lots of good points! And I can’t believe that you’ve only been blogging for 2 years.

    It’s really nice to step back and plug off once in a while. Sometimes bloggers tend to become to obsessed with documenting that they miss out on the “real” fun outside of blogging.

    Your honest voice ang writing style is so refreshing to read. More posts like this please. :)

    • Aww I just want to give you a hug! Thank you so much!! Breaks are definitely a necessity in this industry to save your sanity. I will definitely have more posts for you like this! :) xx

  • HandLuggageOnly

    Brilliant article!!! Well said! Number 5 particularly resonates with me – its so easy to spend so much time worrying about tiny little details that people don’t even care about. :-)

    • Oh it’s so true, the things I’ve stressed about I doubt ANYONE would ever notice! Thanks so much!! :) xx

  • I blame Paris

    I loved this post! Thanks for sharing. I just started my own blog, so this input was really needed.
    Also, I wanted to thank you for your post Paris Neighbourhood Guide: Le Marais. As you might tell, I am a huge fan of Paris and I enjoyed your new ideas and the photographs!
    You are actually one of my inspirations for my blog, so please keep it going, just as you do!

    • I’m so happy you loved the guide!! Le Marais is just so beautiful. Aww! Really?! I’m so flattered!! Thanks SO much lovely :) xx

  • Frauke A

    it is good to hear that other bloggers “run against a wall” here and there as well. Very interesting points you made here. Thanks.

    • Thank you!! And definitely, people are always so surprised at how much time and effort goes into making something look effortless! xx

      • Frauke A

        That is very true. I have a handmade business and blog for this once a week as well share other crafters work. Not only does it take time to blog, choose the right items and find the right theme to talk about. I think the biggest lesson I learned from blogging is that you can’t satisfy everyone. As long as you stay true to yourself your doing good and people evolve and so do their blogs.

  • Natalie Redman

    I didn’t even think bloggers would take photos of products to then just return them! I also find standing up to PR companies and brands difficult but I suppose the worst thing they can do is just say no to your offer. The most important thing I’ve learned from blogging is to stay humble and be true to yourself. You could be successful by faking it but will you be happy deep inside? Probably not!

    http://www.upyourvlog.com

    • I still find it difficult standing up to PR’s/brands but you just have to know your worth & stick by it. It will pay off in the long run :) I love that!! Staying humble is so important in the bloggersphere! Thanks for sharing Natalie :) xx

  • I totally agree breaks are necessary but they also may you lazy ?

  • Sherie Ann Peterson

    Progress over perfection is a big one. It seems there will always be typing mistakes or grammar slips up, no matter how many times I review it and double check all the facts. Another big thing I’ve learned is to do as much ahead of time as I can, because life can interfere with the best of plans. Food4Thought.Today.