7 Ways to Live Outside Your Comfort Zone

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Comfort zones

If you get too comfortable in a relationship, the passion fades. If you get too comfortable in your job, it feels miserable. And well, if you get too comfortable in life, it becomes mediocre and you certainly wont be living up to your full potential. Living in your comfort zone is kind of like settling, and we know I’m not a fan of that.

Basically, comfort zones are a dangerous place. Sure, they’re warm, safe, and secure, but nothing ever grows there.

It’s not hard to step out of it, it just takes small steps every single day. So before you get too comfy on the couch, here’s a few ways to start living out of your comfort zone.

1. Do something that scares you every day

Your comfort zone is comfortable because it’s where you know what to expect. But really, where’s the fun in that?

Each day, write down one thing that you did that scared you. They don’t have to be giant leaps like getting up on stage or skydiving (although that one is on my list) – start with baby steps. Something as small as starting a conversation with a stranger, signing up to a fitness class or dining solo can all make a world of a difference.

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2. Break your routine

I’m not one for routine, so this isn’t particularly a challenge for myself. If anything, I like to embrace change with open arms. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, try making some changes to your routine. Break up the repetitiveness and you might by adding something fresh to your everyday life.

Most of us get up at the same time everyday, take the same route to work, finish work, get home, have dinner, watch TV and go to bed. Before you know it, the weeks is gone, and then the month, year… & it all just turns into one big blur.

That’s not what I want. It’s not what you should want.

Why not add value and memories to each day? Do something you wouldn’t ordinarily. Fill your life with excitement, passion and love… and not just on the weekends.

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3. Say “Yes”

Have you ever said “no” to an opportunity and then convinced yourself why it was right for a list of reasons? I know I’m not the only one guilty of letting fears and failure rationalize a “no.”

“If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you are not sure you can do it, say yes. Then learn how to do it later.”

When we say yes, we do more, create more, live more. Instead of listing down everything rationalizing a no, list everything good that will come out of a yes.

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4. Don’t wait for a perfect moment

As Marie Forleo says, “start before you are ready.” Opportunity sometimes knocks gently and does not wait for perfect timing. The truth is, there is no perfect timing. You need to take a moment and make it perfect. If you wait until you’re ready, you might be waiting for the rest of your life.

5. Don’t be afraid to fail

One of the most important things about living outside your comfort zone is never letting the fear of failure get in the way of your decisions. Don’t let it control you or cause self-doubt. Don’t play it safe because you’re afraid of failing.

What if you go broke? What if you lose? What if you get rejected? You start again.

Failure is crucial to success. Everyone who has succeeded has taken risks, failed, & then got back up again. The fear of losing will only ever lead to losing. There’s nothing worse than sitting around thinking “what if?” because there’s nothing scary about failing. You just have to embrace it. Fail, fail again, fail better. Fail until you succeed.

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6. Travel

Nothing says “stepping out of your comfort zone” like travel, or even better, solo travel. There is nothing more scary and EXCITING than entering a place with a whole new set of rules, language, culture, people, climate & time. You’re completely thrown of and that’s why it makes you feel so alive.

Travel is all about getting lost (and not just when you’re drunk, leaving a club at 3 AM), finding yourself and opening your mind to new ways. At the very least, you’ll have one hell of a story.

7. Embrace Discomfort

In other words, don’t avoid discomfort. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it will become.

“We think that if we had every comfort available to us, we’d be happy. We equate comfort with happiness. And now we’re so comfortable we’re miserable. There’s no struggle in our lives. No sense of adventure.”

I went out for dinner a few days ago and made a conscious effort to keep my phone in my bag. First of all, it seriously worried me how UNCOMFORTABLE & dependent I am on my phone, but after some time, I became more involved in conversation than I ever would have. We live a life of comfort in which technology lets us disregard chit-chat and zone out from any person or situation that makes us feel uncomfortable.

Try it – leave your phone at home, in your bag or off the table and see what happens.

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What are your thoughts on comfort zones?

  • I don’t know if I could do something that scared me every day, I have been dragging my feet and constantly making excuses on starting a YouTube channel so this might be a good place to start. What’s the worst that could happen? Great post, definitely saving x

    ALittleKiran

    • It’s tough but rewarding! DO IT!! There’s no better time to start than now :) x

  • missgetaway

    Absolutely love this post! I’m also currently trying to get out of my comfort zone more and you definitely inspired me to say yes to something I was afraid to say yes to!

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

    • Thank you! YAY, go get it girl :) x

  • Ana

    I really liked this post because I tend to live so much in my comfort zone
    http://fallingforablog.blogspot.com.es/2016/04/shopping-guide-for-music-festivals.html

    • I think most people do but it’s so rewarding to step out every once in a while! x

  • Love this post! I have such a problem with getting out of my comfort zone as an introvert. :) wonderful post!

    • It’s definitely easier said than done, but the more you do it, the easier it is :) x

  • Great post. Stepping outside your comfort zone is scary, and at the end of the day it makes life more satisfying, because regret is the worst feeling ever.
    Blue Jazzmin

    • Yes!! Couldn’t have said it better myself! x

  • Fantastic post! All of your points are spot on. I have been trying to do things that are outside of my comfort zone lately as well – which has actually included eating out solo (its awkward at first, but its easier every time).

    Have a great week Angela!

    xo, mikéla / simplydavelyn.com

    • Thank you! I totally agree, eating solo is SO awkward at first but after a while you kind of embrace it :) x

  • Maria

    Lovely post! Stepping out of your comfort zone can be scary, but I believe it’s necessary for improvement :)

    Maria
    http://immariav.blogspot.com.co/

    • Yes yes yes! Nothing ever grows in your comfort zone! x

  • I totally agree – everything awesome in my life has happened because I’ve pushed myself outside of my comfort zone. (Moving overseas, travelling, falling in love with a total stranger … ❤️) Thanks for the reminder and for sharing awesome advice! x

    • How amazing!! Some people would dream to have the guts to do that – very inspiring :) x

  • I definitely need to step out of my comfort zone more! But these tips are brilliant for doing so!

    elwillmer.blogspot.co.uk
    xx

    • Small steps go a long way! Thank you Ellie!! :) x

  • So many blog posts about learning how to say no and so little about learning how to say yes! Though saying yes is so much more difficult…

    • Totally agree Aleksandra! But the more you do it, the easier it becomes :) x

  • Ashlee Elizabeth

    I love this post. This is definitely something that I have been trying to do this past year. There are so many things that I have been afraid to do in the past, and I am finally getting comfortable enough in myself to be able to go out and do things. I also think saying yes is important, living is about experiences, not about wishing you had done something.

    Ashlee Liz
    http://www.ashleeliz.com

  • I think one of my biggest struggles is the fear of failing which is why I always turn down doing something. It’s bad but I’ve been trying to get past my fear and have been doing a little better. Slowly but surely I’ll get out of my comfort zone. :)

    http://www.llindatt.com

  • “Say yes”. I like that one. It’s my mantra. Always say yes. Of course, it’s hard not to fall into a comfort zone after a few years living in the same city (2 years 4 months in Hong Kong, it seems like forever to me!). But it’s good to remind us how to get out of it.

  • Diana Maria

    Breaking routine is so important for me. I too am not the hugest fan of routine and love to change things up, because as soon as I become too comfortable I become bored! It’s funny how we all think we want comfort, but once we get it, we’re already looking for a change. This was a great post :)

    My Lovelier Days

  • Embrace discomfort – LOVE THIS! I need this saying in my apartment! The other day, I was walking down the street, and typically I just look away when people are approaching/walking by. This time, I challenged myself to make eye contact. It was uncomfortable but also thrilling. It’s the little things sometimes :)

    Lisa
    http://www.theeverydayelevated.com

  • Stacy

    Thanks for this amaaaaaaazing post))) So true and sooo agree with you!

    http://tastyrumors.blogspot.com/

  • I’m so bad for aways sticking to a perfected routine and not being very spontaneous. I’m trying to loosen up a bit, but it’s still proving to be very hard! Hopefully the little bits here and there will add up over time!

    Jemima x
    anotherrantingreader.blogspot.co.uk